Where's the FUN in Function?By Life Coach Brook Montagna, M.S., Personal and Professional Coaching Date: 04/07/2007
Where’s the fun in your daily
functions? With bills to pay, emails to answer, reports to write,
projects to complete, phone calls to return, laundry to do, doctors to visit,
forms to complete, children to care for, finances to manage, and relationships
to squeeze in somewhere, it can feel completely overwhelming and not much fun at
times.
Since all these important things need to be done, as they are the substance
of your life (this not a dress rehearsal), doesn’t it make sense to find ways to
have more fun while doing each functional task?
As a life coach, I not
only help my clients set and reach goals in order to create balance and success,
but most importantly, I help them achieve greater inner peace and joy through
mindful living.
When we think of fun, we usually think of weekend activities, or hitting the
escape button and going on vacation. But here are some suggestions for
making ordinary life more fun.
Plan for the Future, but Live for Now Good planning is
essential, and it can be a lot of fun to plan. But after the plans are made,
it’s time to implement them in the present moment. Worrying is not
planning! Worrying about the outcome of our plans takes us away from
enjoying activities in the present. A good plan is like an anchor in the
storm of worry. If you get caught in worry, come back to your plans and
take action Now, where you can also have more fun.
We are more likely to experience fun when we are fully present to the smells,
tastes, sounds, sights, and feelings of an experience. That’s not to
say that there aren’t moments when we experience unpleasant sensations.
But isn’t it the case that we often tend to focus on what we don’t like more
than on what we do like? For example, we can be very upset and obsessed
over being in a traffic jam, and completely miss hearing our favorite song
playing on the radio.
It’s a matter of focus. To experience more joy in the moment, shift
your focus and pay close attention to pleasant experiences. Take this a
step further and begin to expect, seek, and create more pleasant moments.
Break the No-Fun Habit, Get Creative, and Look for
Opportunities Focusing on the unpleasant and worrying about the
future are No-Fun habits. We can be so focused on what we don’t like, on
what could, should, or might happen, or on getting to the end of a task, "when
we will be happy", that we miss the opportunity to have some fun along the
way.
Break these No-Fun habits. Before doing any task, especially a task
that is mundane, or one that you dread or fear, ask yourself, "How can I make
this more fun?" Then, give yourself some time for your mind to come up
with creative answers. Sometimes the answer is as simple as just slowing
down to be more present so that you can enjoy each part of a task. (Or,
decide to hire someone to do it for you, so you can focus on things you enjoy
more.)
Here are some examples of creative ways to have more fun at tasks that are
not often enjoyed:
Paying Bills, Filing, Data Entry Make your surroundings
beautiful and peaceful or position a photo or painting that puts a smile on
your face. Light relaxing aroma therapy candles and play music that
comforts. Try some color, calligraphy, or artwork on your files or
envelopes. Set mini goals and schedule Mini-Celebrations (see
below). Post cheerful affirmations like, "I am open to fun in every
moment!"
Cold Calling/Telephone Follow Up Use a headset. Use a
heating pad on your chair. Soak your feet when calling. Make a
chart using stickers with different facial expressions depending on how you
experienced the call, or how you think the other person experienced the
call. Put pictures of happy people in front of you, so that you have a
visual of a positive conversation with someone. Set fun outcomes
for your call, not just business outcomes. For example: Get a laugh, say
something inspirational, or share a helpful tip.
Cleaning the Garage Share the load. Find a friend who
also needs to clean his/her garage and spend time together doing both
garages. Every half hour or so, think of silly ways to use the
miscellaneous junk you find. Play upbeat music. Schedule
Mini-Celebrations (see below).
Create the Fun Habit with Mini-Celebrations Each Day
Mini-Celebrations are planned Fun Breaks that are quick, easy, and
inexpensive. These breaks are different from unplanned, random breaks you
may be taking now, such as going to the refrigerator many times a day to snack
even though you are dieting, mindlessly watching a TV show you don’t even like,
surfing the net for no reason, or reading emails that are not important to you.
Mini-Celebrations are intentional ways to brighten and lighten your day and
to create the Fun Habit. The following are just a few ideas of
Mini-Celebrations you can do in 5-10 minutes:
- Do Yoga or Stretch
- Sketch a flower
- Sip a cup of tea mindfully
- Dance to your favorite dance music
- Write a postcard to someone that you smile thinking about
- Walk/run around the block
- Plan a gourmet meal
- Read a couple of pages from a Dave Berry book (or other humorist)
- Journal about your favorite vacation, friends, experiences
- Ask someone "What would you do if you had a million dollars?"
- Take photos of something you love
Now add your own ideas and schedule 3 or more mind shifting Mini-Celebrations
from your list each day. Doing so costs very little in time, energy, or
money, but it will bring you great rewards by helping to put FUN in
function!
For more help with patterns of procrastination and to be empowered for personal, professional, and financial success, contact Brook Montagna, M.S., Professional Coach call, 951-776-2844, or email at brook@mindfullifecoach.com.
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Brook Montagna, Life Coach
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for Excellence in Life and Business
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